And that, gentlemen, brings me to the topic of Dignity. Now this is a rather vast subject, but I will try to simplify it, to the best limits of my knowledge.
Dignity is the core of every gentleman. But the catch is that many of us have the wrong perception of dignity.
What is the definition of dignity? Well, most of us would say it is the quality of feeling high self-esteem and being morally correct. But do we know exactly what is right and what is wrong? Many of us, mostly the younger generation, is very confused in this aspect. Dignity is very easy to quote, but very difficult to follow.
Today’s world is so tough and cut-throat, we have to bypass this quality every day to survive. At work, at home, in day-to-day commute. We go with what the boss wants, through his insults and taunts, even if he is wrong, so we can make a decent living. We adjust with our friends’ idiotic comments, because we are afraid to be alone. Our relative might say something that hurts us, but we stay quiet.
First of all I am not accusing anyone. I do many of these things, but I am trying to improve. But let me bring in the practical aspect here. In today’s world, the definition of dignity has changed. We are not sword wielding, noble warriors in a lawless land, like our forefathers were. And that is the catch.
Today’s society cannot be won over by physical force. Those days are gone. And let me put this bluntly out there. If you are a nobody, then no one will care about your dignity. What you do, or how you do it, does not matter if you aren’t significant.
I am sounding very selfish and worldly here, but this is something I feel is true. What I mean by this is that we have to be honorable and practical at the same time. Work hard, but don’t argue with your boss (unless he/she is sexually harassing you or something extreme like that, of course), swallow your ego, and bide your time. If you are a family man stuck in a situation where your family’s safety is more important, swallow your pride, and deal with that situation in a calm manner. If you are a student and you are arguing with a teacher, back off, and swallow your ego. Apologize.
Although note to never let the water go over your head. If you are mentally troubled, or in extreme cases like sexual harassment or other such horrible cases, then it is NOT OK. Report that prick to the police. You should know when to put your foot down too, and growl.)
You will feel hurt, you might feel bad, but let it be, you are the better man in every case, and smile secretly inside, because you know once you are powerful enough to matter, the tables will turn in your favor. These same people, these dunderheads, will look up to you one day.
Once you are successful and are capable of changing lives, charge ahead. Take crap from no one, and live like kings, men. Then your dignity will matter, and the same people, the exact same people, will wag their tails at you because now you are the boss.
Thanking you all,